Let’s Get Happier:

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When it comes to answering the question “Are you happy?” it can be a subjective and relative question. Depending on our current moods or level of worry we may answer this question differently more often than not. But one thing for sure, we could all work on being happier or finding ways to. There are many things we can do to boost our happiness, and if you use the tips below, you are very likely to increase your personal happiness:

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Do Some Homework

Look inside yourself. Take some time to reflect and write things down. How are you supposed to build the right happiness skills if you don't know which ones you are struggling with in the first place? This is why it's helpful to explore your happiness strengths and weaknesses. Get a better understanding and learn how to improve upon your weaknesses and build your "happiness strengths." 

Boost Your Confidence

How can you increasing your happiness if you didn't think you will be successful at it? You wouldn't. That's why it's so important to affirm your self-belief. To prove to yourself that you can increase your happiness. The best way to do this is by starting with easier skills — skills like practicing gratitude or committing to spending time doing fun things. Get a few quick wins or happiness fixes, and you'll be more confident that you really can change your life.

Feel better About Yourself

You wouldn't practice golf to get better at baking. And you wouldn't learn another language to lose weight. To be happier, focus on the skills that are more closely linked to happiness. The skill of exercising positive self-views and learning how to feel better about yourself is paramount. If you imagine your best possible self, recognize your positive qualities, and identify your strengths; you will master happiness.

Find Your Work-Life Balance – Create It

Where will you muster the energy to be happier if you're exhausted and miserable from work? It will be really hard. Building new skills, skills that will help you be happier, will take time and energy. So, it's helpful first to create better work-life balance.

Believe in Change

Decide to believe you can change yourself and your happiness. When we focus our mindset on happiness, we believe we can change our happiness. This is super important, because if we don't believe we can increase our happiness, we won't even try. 

Remember the Positive

Remember that song “Accentuate the Positive”? Every section in our brains can be strengthened by practicing. If your brain is really good at remembering negative things that happen, it can be useful to strengthen the regions of your brain responsible for remembering positive things. 

 See the Positive

Everything we experience can be a bummer if we choose to see it that way. But when you search for the benefits or silver linings in your life, you may be surprised to discover a lot of good. Keep practicing to increase the positive and decrease the negative to cultivate happiness. Also, this skill has been linked to a better ability to cope with stress and be more resilient.

Take Breaks From The Social Media Monsters

Facebook and other social media platforms can have a negative effect on our happiness. Observing what others are doing on your phone is not social interaction. By choosing to take breaks from social media — or changing the way we use and think about social media — we can boost our happiness.

Manage Money Better

How we choose to spend our money impacts what we can do and how we live in ways that impact how happy we are. When we choose a less fancy house or car — things that don’t bring us much happiness — we have more money to spend on adventures or on gifts for friends: things that actually do make us happier.

Be Nicer

Taking a more positive approach with everyone you interact with. When we are kind to others, we feel better about ourselves. We can do nice things for others, be more compassionate, or we can just treat each other with respect, communicating kindly rather than assuming the worst.

Control Your thinking

Let's face it: Sometimes we just make ourselves miserable. We just can't stop thinking about how so-and-so wronged us, or how our life didn't turn out as we hoped. Negative thought processes — like worrying, ruminating, self-judgment, and fearing rejection — just keep us miserable and unable to move forward. When you find yourself thinking negatively, pause and refocus your thoughts. In time, your brain will be able to do this more easily on its own. 

Seek Out Clarity

How are you supposed to move your life forward when you don't even know what you feel or why you feel it? To become happier, try to gain clarity on your emotions; find out what you're feeling and what caused or is causing those feelings.

Define and Live Your Values

When you start to explore yourself and your values, you may discover that you've known all along what would make you happy, but you're just not doing it. To be happier, get clear on your values, so that you can live your life freely, according to your own principles and values.

 Embrace “the good”

Sure, sometimes life is hard. But by focussing on the good, you can rise above it and be more resilient. When you find the good, savour the moment, and bring it with you to maintain happiness even during hard times. Or try thinking about a time in the future when you'll feel better. 

Imagine Your Ideal Life

Did you know that your brain has a difficult time differentiating between things that happen in your imagination and things that happen in real life? So when you imagine something — even happiness — your brain acts as if it's real. We can use imagination to help create happiness out of thin air and enjoy our experiences more.

Be Mindful

Sometimes we want to check out or just live in the moment. The world seems dark and scary, but if we practice mindfulness we experience more fully both the positive and the negative — we are more fully engaged in our lives and can control our thoughts more. Don’t let your brain run away on you.

Define what Happiness Means to You

We all define happiness in different ways and have unique ideas as to what it is. When you know what happiness means to you, you'll have an easier time finding it. Explore happiness — what it means, what it looks like, and what it feels like — to more easily create the happiness you want. 

Go For Change!

You won’t change your life by doing the same things you've always done. It's pretty tough to do so. Push yourself to overcome fears and approach your life with enthusiasm. Try "doing the opposite of what you might normally do to mix things up" see how it feels and make your brain more flexible.

Have a Voice – Be Yourself

When we let people walk on us or control us, we're unhappy. But when we rally for our own needs assertively and express ourselves, we feel more in control. Learning how to express yourself can help you overcome interpersonal challenges, which can make you unhappy. Don’t keep everything inside. Be more vocal and talk more with the ones you love.

Know Your Purpose

We all want to feel like we make a positive impact in this world, but sometimes we are uncertain of what impact we want to make. Explore what gives you a sense of purpose and how you want to pursue this purpose to give your life a greater sense of meaning and enrichment.

Grow Connections With Others

We enjoy just about everything more when we do it with others. This is why one of the best things you can do for your happiness is to build meaningful relationships and real social connections. Nurture these connections by practicing kindness and gratitude towards the people you care about. 

Obliterate Old Habits and Expectations

Change yourself willfully by working at it. There is a tendency for us to return to our original happiness level over time. To boost your baseline-level happiness, you can try changing your physiology through nutrition and exercise. To maintain your happiness, you have to get out of your comfort zone and keep adding variety to your happiness plan. 

Be Accountable

We are more likely to do the things we say we're going to do if we schedule time in our calendars. We can also more easily stay on track if we get accountability from others. So, if you really want to be happier, don't let yourself get away with being unhappy. You need to work at it. In conclusion we can all be happier. It's just a matter of building the right “happiness skills” and being determined to do so by consciously working at it each and every day.